As I sit at the table, on the last Eve of the year, full of beautiful and tasty treats, glasses full of champagne, room full of laughter, I reflect on the year behind me and think what makes us Happy to Celebrate an end of another year? Why are we so giddy with excitement even though the number on the screen shows the inevitable loss of time? Somehow, for most, the First of the Year symbolizes a new beginning. We all have this child like silliness when we get closer to the end of the year and think that now, things will be different. Friends will cherish us more, kids will be more thankful, significant others will hopefully show us more love and kindness… But really it is all about us. It all starts from us, within us, not around us.
As the New Year comes we usually give ourselves promises to give up bad habits, pick up good habits, achieve goals or simply seek to be better overall. According to the researchers, the most common new years resolutions are to:
- Quit Smoking
- Drink less
- Start going to the gym
- Do better at school
- Find a better job
- Lose Weight
- Start to eat better
- Decrease debts
- Save up for something
- Go somewhere
- Help others more
Seeking to live healthier and happier lives can contribute not only to a longer life but can make you happier.
One of the common problems is that people forget to include specifics of how they are going to achieve those goals or what it really means for them. What exactly does “find a new job” mean? Same but at a different location? Same but with better pay? Different job but with the same pay? When coming up with a resolution try to be specific and include what exactly it means and how you are going to achieve that, step by step preferably. For example “I will pick up a newspaper and start looking at possible jobs” or “I will post my Resume online and hope that someone will appreciate the kind of skills I can offer.
Research shows that 30% of people give up on their New Year’s resolutions by the end of January. Another 30% of people who make New Year’s resolutions give up by June. Despite the desire to achieve goals only 12% of people actually do. It should be noted that there is a difference between men and women. 22% of men seem to achieve better results if there is a reward set for the achievement. Like, “I will be more respected if I get a better paying job”. Women were 10% more successful when they set goals publicly, get support from their friends and loved ones. You can tell you co workers or simply announce it on Facebook, and I promise you, people will line up to help, in any way they can. People are great like that.
How To Not Give Up On Your Goals
Based on more than 40 years of research, scientists have proposed a strategy of goal-setting. Goals should be very important to you, very specific and realistic. It should be carried out with a high level of interest and pedantry. It is helpful to have someone you have to answer to for your decisions. For example, two friends agreed that in order to achieve their goal of eating more vegetables they would text each other at the end of every night, listing all of the veggies they have consumed that day. Having such support can be key in achieving in the New Year. Happy New Year!